I love birth. I love birth stories, I love thinking and reading about it, I love pregnant people. It’s a beautiful obsession.
But I wasn’t always this way.
I like to think of my life as “before witnessing birth” and “after witnessing birth.” Most of my life I was not only disinterested in pregnancy and birth, but--get this!--kind of grossed out by the whole concept. Then my twin sister got pregnant and I was there when she gave birth to my perfect nephew. Y’all, I had never seen power and beauty like that before.
Now, I know every birth is different, but since then, I’ve attended quite a few births (including two of my own) and I can conclude that power and beauty are pretty much best friends with labor and birth. I know that many laboring people probably don’t feel beautiful when they’re peeing on the floor and moaning. When they’re gasping for breath and praying for each contraction to be over, they often don’t feel powerful. But, I consider it part of my job to help each laboring person realize that they are beautiful and powerful. Everyone deserves that. This is a big part of why I decided to pursue birth work.
When it comes to the non-birthy side of me, I live in Statham with my 2 independent, smart, funny kids. In my free time I like to read the Twilight novels (don’t hate me), use swear words in creative ways, go hiking, paint, and stay up way too late Netflixing. I’m into power tools, I like cutting the grass, but I hate when my hands get dirty. I find it relaxing to clean my kitchen but doing laundry makes my skin crawl. I came out as a lesbian in my mid-30's, which led to all kinds of massive transition in my life: divorce, single parenting, navigating a newly-discovered identity, re-creating my life and community. The whole shebang. Life really surprises you sometimes.
If you ever considered hiring a doula, please contact one. Find a way to pay for it. Whether it’s Kate and me here at AthensBorn or someone else in town, you deserve to have someone by your side while you’re giving birth who will make sure you feel beautiful and powerful as you do your work.
Best of luck to you on your journey.